We live in a society of cowards.
When grown ass men and women cannot take responsibility for their own actions, own up to their mistakes, or if they have a problem with someone and talk shit behind their backs instead of confronting them like an adult, you know society is messed up.
There is no need for shadiness, falseness, or jealousy. Who are you competing against? Better question, why? Why are you allowing your life to revolve around someone else? Don’t you understand that this takes away from your own life. Imagine being so caught up in someone else’s life, complaining about their hair or clothes or what they choose to do with their money or bodies and then you realise that you missed out. You missed out on happy moments, on personal growth and love, on vibing with like minded people, dancing in the rain, and manifesting the life that you want. The only person you should be competing against is yourself; to be better than you were yesterday.
I roll with quality.
I don’t care if you don’t like me or are jealous of me because at the end of the day, you don’t pay my bills. Especially if you hate based on superficial judgments instead of getting to actually know me. It is petty and childish. I have seen women stare at me and talk behind my back. I have also seen women smile at me and tell me they love my red hair, my platform heels, my crazy style. They tell me I am brave, and pretty, and confident. They have told me that they wished they had my confidence.
These are the powerful women. Oh how I wish they could see themselves the way that I see them. They are beautiful and unique. Sometimes I even look at a women and love her curves, her rainbow hair, and the fact that her eyeliner could cut through the patriarchy. There are so many things that make these women beautiful and powerful, yet society has conditioned them to feel sub-par, unworthy, or not enough.
But you are enough! You are worthy! And you can be anyone or anything you want to be. Don’t let yourself allow anyone to hold you back.
Society needs to wake up and open their minds, eyes, and heart. Learn to vibe with positive energy. Love yourself and others. There is no room for jealousy or hatred on the spiritual level.
I see this so much with women hating each other, being jealous of each other. I don’t understand it. When did life become a competition with each other? When did we decide to allow others to dictate the way we think and live our lives?
Shouldn’t we all be rooting for each other’s health and success? (Yes.)
Ask yourselves the reason why you have such animosity for a woman you may have never met or really gotten to know.
- Is it because of the way she dresses?
- Her weight?
- Her success, money, education,etc?
- Her hair?
- Her makeup? Her lack of makeup?
- Her lack of fear?
- Do you wish you could be more like her but are too scared [of being judged] to do so, so you try to justify it by hating her?
- Her happiness?
- Her skin?
Are any of the aforementioned valid reasons for not liking someone, your fellow woman; sister?
Absolutely the fuck not!
How does hating any of those items listed make you feel better or be a better person? What makes you think that straight, curly, or wavy hair isn’t beautiful; natural hair colour or something wild a bright? What if she’s a little overweight or skinny or athletic? What about her eyes; blue is no more beautiful than brown. And skin color? Whether she has the milkiest white skin or the darkest ebony, her skin is beautiful and it does not determine who she is or how capable she can be. We are all made of stardust!
But while I am here in my comfy chair writing this and you are out there living and dealing wit this hatred you may be wondering how I can so comfortably speak out? Well, not only am I a woman, but I was the girl who was being hated on by another girl that didn’t even know me, didn’t even get the chance to know me. I was the girl that used to care what others thought about me, thought my worth was based on others opinions.
But I learned, and grew, loved myself, and began to do everything that I wanted despite the challenges and opinions of others. I also learned that my own judgments of other women, people, did not make me any better and if I wanted to be the beautiful, intelligent person I am claiming to be, I had to get rid of those hateful thoughts society had taught me. Thankfully, I had the greatest teachers (not just in school but out in the world) who showed me truth, spirituality, and the true meaning of oneness.
So why, you may ask, did she have this animosity towards me when she doesn’t even know me nor had I done anything to her but treat her with respect? I have no idea. I could make up a bunch of lies about her and say she was just a bitch who wanted all the attention on her, but isn’t that what we are trying to stop here? I could judge her and hate on her, but the truth of the matter is that I really don’t know what possessed her to have such strong feelings against me, I can only assume:
- She’s jealous,
- She feels threatened by me and thinks I want her boyfriend,
- I dress however I want, dye my hair crazy colours, do my makeup,
- I’m not afraid to speak my mind because I’m honest,
- I live without fear of being judged,
- Because I get what I want,
- or all of the above.
But the big question is why! Does this make you happy or any better for it? It doesn’t. It only builds up your insecurities and more hatred.
“If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us.” — Hermann Hesse
So how about we do this — instead of trying to bash and hate on another woman, or anyone for that matter, try loving yourself, love all the things that make you unique, build up your confidence, explore the things you like no matter what anyone else says, smile at someone, and compliment someone (they will appreciate it and their smiles and thank you’s will lift you up).
Let’s End Girl Hate!
We are all beautiful and amazing in our own unique ways. We have to learn to be comfortable in our own skins, to be confident and be the women we want to be and want
to raise. Let’s teach girls to love one-another, to love themselves so that there will be no time for hatred or jealousy.
“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.”
Let this be your resolution and go send out some good vibes into the world because it could definitely use more.
- Radical Self Love (Go pick up a copy of Galadarling’s “Radical Self-Love” book and watch it change your life! She’s literally amazing and has helped me in the best ways. Not only have I read her book and blog, but we also spoke on the phone and she gave me some very much needed advise.)
- Give out more compliments to other women
- Help fellow women
- Cut the Judging & Bashing & Hate (Against yourself and others)